The four ashramas are for the householder, not for the gay man who does not marry. On the other hand, playwright Dina Mehta, then in her 60s, said her Bombay women-friends were “whipping up sex” to try and feel young. I made love to her the night before she went to hospital where she died.” (He was 20 years younger and outlived her by 25 years). (Everything else she could do without him.) During my condolence visit to him, he said: “I kept my promise to her. Anais Nin, novelist and my teacher, made her second husband promise just that. When students counsel that I give up sex in my Vanaprastha ashrama, I counter: “I may be slow but not yet dead”.
